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How to Deal with Stress and Desire

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Stress is the tension and pressure caused by expectations in life. We stress because we worry about deadlines. We stress because we fret about solutions. We stress because we are unsure of the outcome of our words and actions. We stress because we can not control every aspect in our life, and we stress because we doubt our authority  regarding the aspects we can control. Stress is the product of expectation, worry, and doubt. In order to deal with stress, we must understand why we are creating it. Expectation When we project expectations onto a situation, we are taken out of the moment. We worry and anticipate what is to come instead of focusing on what we can experience and interact with in the present moment. We fail to see opportunities for action, inaction, and insight because we are too preoccupied with what we should  be doing or what we situations we  should be producing. Imagine someone in possession of a lit fire on a cold winter night. If they are too busy anticipating and bu

How to Decide for Yourself

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Life is full of opportunities to make decisions- these decisions vary in significance, in duration, and in intention. Decisions are always a product of intention, regardless of whether they are made consciously or subconsciously.  Decisions reflect purpose. Why do we decide upon or against various prospects? We choose certain goals/situations/actions in order to get what we want. Decisions are very powerful in life- but the intentions behind them are even stronger. Attitude and Intentions A single decision affects the factors assigned to and controlled by that choice. Intention and attitude affect all decisions. When one holds a certain attitude and intention, they make choices that resonate with and reinforce that attitude and intention. Although attitude and intention are impermanent and can be instantly changed, most individuals hold onto and get stuck with a few select tendencies. Until one becomes aware of their attitude and intentions, one will live life according to their unexam

How to Stop Labeling People

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Labeling one's surroundings is a strongly rooted habit- we subconsciously organize our environment into categories which help us "survive." From a survivalist viewpoint, this tendency is extremely helpful- we must label that area of the forest as dangerous, the members of a neighboring tribe as friendly or lethal, and that body of water as impure. Arriving at quick conclusions when facing crucial survival situations is useful and promotes our well-being, but when that same tendency is practiced in a totally nonthreatening environment (e.g. our social lives), we actually hinder the flow of our happiness. How We Organize the People Around Us Most of us constantly form observations about others within the first few seconds of meeting them. Their appearance, body language, and general "vibe" seem to communicate to us their personalities. This alone, in its "pure" act, is a very harmless exercise. There is nothing wrong with deducing a person's emotions

How to Stop Objectifying Yourself

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Everyone possesses a different set of values. Judging others based on conflicting value systems does not result in any positive progress, connection, or sustainable enjoyment. Yet common ground exists between most people living within society. One of the most controversial themes existing throughout social boundaries is the subject of objectifying people into mere sexual or visual objects. Although the individual does not possess control over how others react and perceive them, individuals have the power to send conscious and subconscious messages as to how they would like to be treated. Behavior and choices all contribute to how an individual suggests others treat him or her. If You've Got It, Flaunt It A person with a healthy self esteem will feel comfortable with their body. They accept and take care of their body and take pride in keeping up their health and appearances. Some individuals perceive a certain wardrobe as immodest, whilst others may think it acceptable and attracti