Be Ridiculously Good at Life

In order to function well and maintain our happiness and well-being, we need to avoid becoming exhausted and fatigued. This is not always possible. Sometimes, we find ourselves burning out and working ourselves past our limits- we become very tired and we are nowhere close to functioning optimally. When this occurs in life, we need to assess our situation as soon as possible in order for us to regain our well-being and enjoy a higher energy state. Why Are We Fatigued? First, we have to assess our situation. What are we doing, or not doing, that is making us feel exhausted? What mental, physical, emotional, and/or spiritual aspects and needs are we neglecting? Have you been eating healthily and exercising regularly? Are you processing and accepting your emotions in a safe, productive manner? Do you regularly remind yourself to live with perspective and purpose instead of chasing mindlessly after purely materialistic endeavors or instant gratification? It is very easy to get into a rut i...

Relaxation and effort are relative terms- but have you ever thought of them as "net" terms? During a long spur of exerted effort, one might perceive the entire long, marathon-like ordeal as extremely stressful and difficult. Although mental endurance and attention span do develop just like physical endurance and strength, rarely do long winding episodes of effort result in the optimal efficiency. During long internals, the "net" amount of stress completely overrides the amount of relaxation we feel after getting through the ordeal, as the relaxation is often interrupted with more stress regarding our doubts about the efficiency of the job we managed to plow through with less-than-optimal energy and focus.  With shorter intervals, our "net" amount of stress is much less. Our net amount of relaxation increases- we can more easily and readily exercise the required concentration to do our jobs effectively. In order to optimize our efforts, we must compartmenta...

"Nice guys finish last." "Women only date jerks." "I've been friendzoned AGAIN." These are a few of the misconceptions a great deal of the male population buy into. Our culture and their lack of insight have lead them to believe that women only date jerks and that women reject them because they are "too nice." In reality, the little boys who believe in this reasoning are self-delusional- they feel entitled to sex, believe that offering dinner and a movie will grant them romantic appreciation, and totally fail to consider the possibility that they have not developed themselves enough to engage in the activities that could lead to the spread of their DNA and the responsibility of dealing with another human being's genuine emotions.  Maybe this is a good thing, maybe the males who truly believe in this reasoning should continue to believe so that their inferior intelligence and emotional baseness do not propagate themselves onto future gener...

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When we enter relationships, we interact with a new person of facets and dimensions previously unbeknownst to us. We are never the same person with different people, and our experiences and connections are totally unique to the bond we share with this new person. What could potentially be a new, fresh experience rife with potential and possibilities is often drastically limited with the emotional baggage, expectations, and preconceived notions both partners project onto each other. Instead of being with a person and sharing time and moments with each other, we label, analyze, and identify this new person through what we think we understand about their behavior, preferences, and personality. We seek to "understand" and "peg down" our partner because we seek some form of control over this person who we have allowed under our skin. We are opening ourselves up to another and we are vulnerable- but instead of embracing this vulnerability, we become afraid of it and so we...

With every new moment we have a choice- we can either hold onto the past, brace ourselves for the future, or we can be fully in the moment. In the moment we exist without attachments, without expectations- we experience the moment so fully that the possibilities open up and we can sense the subtleties of life and follow the vibes that resonate with us. Yet most people forget that they have the choice and opportunity to be in the moment and experience different feelings and energy. People become chronically stressed because they hold on to past mistakes and fears just as tightly as they hold onto worry and anxiety. Stress clouds the heart and mind and separates us from feeling the happiness and peace that is always available. Although the damage caused by past hurts and chronic stress must be healed in the moment, the healing is also accompanied with peace, happiness, or release. Stress is not accompanied with happiness- neither is fear or worry or depression or insecurity. These draini...

To the readers of my blog, I thank you for continuing to look here for insight and advice. I would like to let you know that I would love to answer some of your questions regarding life. Comment below, or on any post, and I will reply as soon as the best answer I can offer you comes to mind. Thanks! Wynona